Anal stimulation is a sexual practice that often arouses curiosity or rejection. Anal stimulation can be very pleasurable. If you want to engage in anal stimulation, you should, above all, respect her wishes.
The secrets of anal stimulation
The basic requirements – communication and agreement
For anilingus to be a source of mutual pleasure, good communication is very important. You should both agree that you’re up for it.
- To ensure open and trusting communication, you should only bring up the sensitive topic of anal stimulation when the time and place are right. For example, in the middle of foreplay is not a good time. Your partner might feel pressured.
- Be open about what you find appealing about anal stimulation. Listen when your partner speaks, respect what they say and show empathy. If your suggestion is rejected, respect that.
- What do you think about anal stimulation? Have you ever done it before? Would you be willing to try anal stimulation with her? These are examples of open-ended questions that require detailed answers. Try to get as much information as possible, even if it involves doubts or fears.
- In men, the prostate provides an extra dose of desire. If the prostate is stimulated through a special massage, the pleasure can feel particularly intense.
- Don’t pressure your partner. This could further reinforce their rejection. If you can’t convince them to engage in anal stimulation, don’t bother. After all, there are numerous other ways to explore your sexuality.
Showering together: for sensual foreplay
For a nice introduction to anal pleasure, you could have a shower together. This creates trust and a relaxed atmosphere for a highly erotic continuation in the bedroom. The benefits of a shared shower for foreplay are many:
- Hygiene. Showering together is also about hygienically preparing your backdoor. This way, you feel clean and know that your partner also takes hygiene seriously.
- Relaxation. The warm water in the shower relaxes the muscles, so you are perfectly prepared for anal stimulation.
- Eroticism. A sensual shower is a great opportunity to explore your partner’s body. WhetherKissesor caresses, take advantage of all the possibilities offered by the exciting setting of a sensual shower!
- Discovering new erogenous zones. While showering together, you can also find out which erogenous zones your partner is particularly sensitive to stimulation. Carefully explore the backdoor.
- Body language. There’s no need to talk while showering. Your partner’s body language is usually enough to understand what you like and dislike. Let your bodies speak to show each other how much you enjoy foreplay in the shower.
Take it slow
Begin your anal exploration with your fingers. This way, you can work your way forward slowly and carefully.
- Caress the anus and the area around it. Massage the area around the backdoor using circular motions with your fingers. Over time, your partner will get used to the sensation. This will build the trust needed to proceed.
- Use an anal lubricant. A lubricant provides optimal gliding properties during penetration. Therefore, apply a sufficient amount of lubricant on your fingers and on your partner’s anus.
- Insert a finger. Slowly and carefully slide a finger into her ass. Gently get her used to the sensation of anal penetration.
- Respect the pace set by her. Let her guide you and follow her instructions and wishes.
- Try different forms of stimulation. Try it a little faster or slower, make different movements with your fingers (circling, pressing, massaging, pushing) and test what is possible and what you like.
Anilingus is the next step
If you’re passed anal sex and still can’t get enough, we recommend anilingus (also known as a rimjob or rimming) as a second step. Here’s how you should do it:
- Kissing and caressing. Awaken desire by focusing on the buttocks and thighs while kissing and caressing.
- Get closer to the backdoor. Keep getting closer to the back door.
- Gently lick the anus. Play with your tongue and gently lick the area around the anus opening. Give your partner some time to adjust to the new sensation and relax.
- Insert your tongue. Then let your tongue slide into the back door. Pay attention to her reaction.
Sex toys for varied anal stimulation
The anal journey of discovery can be enhanced and made more varied through the use of various sex toys. The LOVE team has compiled a selection of anal toys for you and explains how you can maximize anal pleasure with them.
- Prostate massager: In men, the prostate is a highly erogenous zone. It is located a few centimeters below the surface and, when stimulated with a prostate massager, for example, can trigger intense orgasms.
- Small anal dildo. A small anal dildo allows you to gently and gradually explore anal penetration. There are numerous different models available, varying in size, shape, and texture. So, depending on your experience level and preferences, there’s something for everyone.
- A buttplug opens up a wide range of anal stimulation. Depending on the size, material, and function, the butt plug can provide everything from gentle to powerful anal pleasure. If necessary, a butt plug can also be worn for extended periods.
No matter which anal toy you choose, there are a few things to consider when selecting and purchasing. Here’s what’s important when choosing your first anal toy:
- Quality. Silicone, TPR, glass or stainless steel are easy-care materials that can be used completely safely and are therefore perfect as material for anal sex toys.
- Communication. Taking the initiative to share an anal toy on your own doesn’t always work out. Agree with your partner beforehand on which sex toy you’d like to use for anal stimulation. Respect the other person’s wishes and preferences and adapt to spontaneous changes in use.
- Cleaning and storage. Maintain hygiene and care for your sex toy. This will ensure it lasts for a long time. Clean your anal toy with soap and water after each use and store it in a clean, dark place.
Switch things up by playing around with temperature
To make the anal journey of discovery even more exciting, you can try new stimuli with different temperatures. The best way to do this is to use glass sex toys or stainless steel, which you simply warm beforehand under lukewarm water or chill in the refrigerator. The hot-cold sensations intensely stimulate the highly erogenous anal zone and make you feel all subsequent touches and caresses even more intensely.
To further enhance the sensory experience, alternate between warm and cold. For example, start with a slightly warm sex toy to relax the muscles and then switch to cooler stimulation for a surprising, invigorating sensation. These temperature contrasts not only stimulate the body but also awaken the mind, creating a tingling anticipation of everything that comes next.
Always be sure to test the temperature of the sex toy on a sensitive area, such as the inside of your wrist, before using it for anal stimulation to ensure a safe and enjoyable experience for your partner. Generally speaking, it’s good to maintain constant communication so you can continually adapt the stimulation to your partner’s desires and preferences, thus ensuring mutual and respectful anal pleasure.
Deepen your journey with anal penetration
After you’ve thoroughly explored the backdoor with your fingers, tongue or sex toys, you might want to deepen your anal exploration. Anal penetration works either with the penis or with a strap-on, depending on the configuration in which you want to test anal penetration.
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