Most guides to backdoor sex read like they were written by someone who’s never actually tried it. Vague enthusiasm, no practical detail, the same three positions listed in a different order. This isn’t that guide.
A-level sex – anal, backdoor, buttfuck, whatever you want to call it – requires more preparation and more communication than most sexual activities. The positions that work best are the ones that account for that: control, comfort, angle, and the ability to adjust without the whole thing becoming an exercise in logistics.
Here’s what actually works.
The best positions for anal
We know that this is not always the case, but we’ll consider the penetrating partner the man and the receiving partner the woman. We also know that 2 is not always the number of partners, but that’s for another article.
1. Doggy style – the reliable starting point
The classic for good reason. her on all fours gives him control over depth and pace, which matters enormously in anal sex where going too fast too soon ruins everything. The angle works naturally with the body’s anatomy. Start slow, stay slow until both people are comfortable, then adjust.
The variation worth knowing: her drops from all fours onto their forearms. This changes the angle subtly and tends to produce stronger sensations for both partners. Small adjustment, significant difference.
2. Missionary – underrated for this
Most people overlook missionary for backdoor sex. The face-to-face element changes things – you’re watching each other’s responses rather than guessing, which makes communication considerably easier. Legs raised onto the shoulders deepens the angle. Legs kept lower keeps things gentler. It’s a more versatile position than it gets credit for.
Requires more flexibility than doggy style but produces a different quality of intimacy. Worth trying once you’re past the initial learning curve.
3. Spooning – the gentlest option
Both partners on their sides, with him behind her. This position limits depth naturally, which makes it the best starting point for anyone new to a-level sex. The angle requires more patience but the physical closeness and the limited range of movement make it genuinely comfortable in ways the more acrobatic positions aren’t.
Also the easiest position to maintain for longer periods without either person getting tired. Underappreciated.
4. Flat on the stomach
She lies flat, a pillow under her hips to adjust the angle. He is on top. This restricts movement more than doggy style, which produces a different kind of sensation – more pressure, less range. Some people find this position produces the most intense experience; others find it too restricted. Worth trying to find out which camp you’re in.
5. Cowgirl – she is in control
He lies on his back, her on top facing forward. This puts complete control of depth and pace with her, which makes it one of the better options for anyone who wants to manage the experience themselves rather than relying on their partner to read their responses correctly.
Takes confidence, but produces consistently good results when both people know what they’re doing.
6. Reverse cowgirl – same logic, different angle
Same position as cowgirl but with her facing away. The angle changes significantly and the visual dynamic is different. Control remains with her. He gets a different sensation and a different view, which is its own recommendation.
7. Standing – works better than it sounds
She bends forward with her hands on something solid – a desk, a dresser, whatever’s at the right height. He stands behind her. Height compatibility matters more in this position than most others, and if there’s a significant difference between the two of them, a small step or a strategically placed piece of furniture sorts it out quickly. Standing gives both people more freedom to move than any of the lying-down positions, which changes how the whole thing feels – more dynamic, less controlled.
Pegging while standing works best only when both partners are comfortable with anal sex and know what works for them.
8. On the edge of the bed
She lies on her stomach at the edge of the bed, with her legs hanging off. He stands. This gives him more control and leverage than standard doggy style while keeping her comfortable and supported. The height difference is resolved by the bed’s edge.
Practical, consistent, and easier to sustain than several of the more athletic options on this list.
9. Seated – the overlooked option
He sits on a chair and she sits on his lap facing away. Control is shared between both partners in a way that most positions don’t allow. She can control depth and pace from above while the penetrating partner controls rhythm from below. Requires coordination, but produces a genuinely collaborative dynamic.
10. Side-lying face to face
Similar to spooning but both partners facing each other. Requires more flexibility than spooning and the angle is more challenging, but the intimacy of the position is its own reward. Eye contact, the ability to kiss throughout, constant physical closeness. For couples who want anal sex to feel as connected as other forms of intimacy, this position delivers that most directly.
Pegging positions
Pegging is different enough from conventional anal sex that it needs its own section. The strap-on dildo changes everything about the physical dynamic – how she moves, how he positions himself, where the leverage comes from. It’s the same basic activity with a completely different set of practical considerations.
The harness needs to fit correctly before any of this matters. A poorly fitted harness produces a session that’s frustrating for both people regardless of position. Get that right first.
1. Doggy style – works for pegging too, with adjustments
He is on all fours, she is kneeling behind him. The strap-on dildo means she has less direct sensation feedback than in conventional backdoor sex, so communication from her matters more – pace, depth, angle. He should direct actively rather than assuming she can read his responses as accurately as she would without the harness.
Height alignment between partners needs more attention here than in conventional doggy style. A pillow under his hips often resolves this.
2. Him on his back – missionary pegging
He lies on his back, legs raised. She kneels between them wearing the harness. This is the position that allows the most eye contact and the most direct communication – both important in pegging, particularly for anyone new to it.
She has good control of depth and pace. He can use his legs to signal adjustments. Face-to-face pegging in this position has a different emotional quality to doggy style – more connected, less anonymous. For couples who want pegging to feel intimate rather than purely physical, this is where to start.
3. Flat on the stomach – deep and controlled
He lies flat with a pillow under his hips. She lies on top or kneels behind, depending on height. This position limits her’s ability to adjust independently, which puts more responsibility on her to read responses carefully and adjust accordingly.
The angle tends to produce more intense sensations than doggy style for most people. Start with less depth than you think is needed and work from there.
4. She is seated, he is on top
She sits on a chair or the edge of the bed, harness on. He backs onto the strap-on facing away, which puts him completely in charge of how deep and how fast. For anyone new to pegging this is probably the most useful starting position – there’s no guesswork about pace because he’s setting it himself, which takes a significant amount of pressure off both people.
The seated position also makes it easier for her to use her hands – a vibrator held against her, or simply physical contact that makes the whole session feel less mechanical.
5. Standing – for couples who’ve got the basics sorted
He stands and bends forward, hands on a surface. She stands behind him wearing the harness. This requires height compatibility between partners – more so than other positions because the harness adds complexity to alignment. When it works, it gives both partners the most freedom of movement of any pegging position and tends to suit couples who are already comfortable with pegging and want something less structured than the more supported positions.
Not the starting point. The position you graduate to.
Preparation: the part that determines whether any of this works
Position selection is secondary to preparation. Backdoor sex without adequate preparation – lubrication, time, the right mindset – doesn’t work well regardless of which position you choose.
Use more lubricant than you think you need. Then use more. Silicone-based lubricants last longer than water-based, but are not compatible with silicone sex toys. Water-based works with everything, including a butt plug used for preparation beforehand.
A butt plug used in the lead-up to backdoor sex – during foreplay, during oral, during rimming – makes the transition significantly easier. This isn’t optional advice for beginners. It’s practical information that applies regardless of experience level.
Start with the gentler positions on this list – spooning, missionary – and work toward the ones that allow more depth and pace as both partners find their rhythm. The same applies to pegging: missionary pegging and the seated position before anything more demanding.
Where Royal Escorts fits into this
A-level is one of the most specifically requested services from Royal Escorts models in London, and the models who offer it have thought carefully about what makes the experience work rather than simply agreeing to it.
Petite models, tall models, busty models, curvy models – the aesthetic preferences are secondary to finding a companion who’s genuinely comfortable and experienced with backdoor sex specifically. Young models who offer a-level have generally developed that comfort deliberately. The experience is better with a companion who’s actually at ease with what’s happening than one who’s performing ease.
Models who offer pegging – strap-on included – are available through Royal Escorts for clients whose interest runs in that direction. The booking brief needs to specify this clearly. The right model, the right brief, properly confirmed before the evening starts.
Out-call bookings where a-level or pegging is part of the brief need to be confirmed at the booking stage – not assumed, not negotiated on the night. Royal Escorts handles this matching directly. The right model for the right brief, properly informed before the evening starts.
The positions work best when both people know what they’re doing. Preparation, communication, and the right companion make that considerably more likely.
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