One of the upsides (if you'll pardon the attempt at a pun) of escort sex as opposed to normal sex with your partner in bed with the lights off after you've brushed your teeth and just before you collapse with exhaustion from the days routine is that you tend to play a lot more. Sex becomes a recreational and energising event rather than something functional and habitual. In fact, sex with a client (or an occasional lover) often feels to me like a completely different activity to the regular nightly (twice-weekly?) ritual that sex with long-term lovers generally seems to become. What's the difference? Well, for a start its aware ie you've planned for it, anticipated it and, when it happens, you're right there, experiencing it, as you would a movie you've been looking forward to seeing or a walk along the seafront, rather than being half there and half thinking about the work meeting you've got tomorrow or the fact that the car really needs servicing. And, secondly, it's FUN! It's not loaded with emotional issues like I saw you looking at the woman next door today are you fantasising about her while you're making love to me? or I want to make love to you but I know I'm going to have to do a lot of running to make up for the argument we had earlier can I really be bothered?
And the great thing about it being fun rather than loaded with all kinds of other stuff is that you can really let go and dare to explore the things you've always wanted to try. Like strap-ons, for instance.
Although I'm bi, I never used to be a fan of strap-ons. Just as I've always preferred the real thing to a vibrator (yes, even the pink rabbit one), I've always felt that the exciting thing about being with a woman is that shes a woman why would I want to pretend that she has an 8-inches? However, the more you get into sex as playing, rather than something serious and hugely significant, the more you start to drop the set ideas you have about what you like and what you don't like. I remember one of my first bookings the client had asked me and another escort to bring toys with us and to put on a show for him. I was less than enthusiastic, thinking I've got a beautiful woman with a stunning figure to play with what do I need toys for? However, when the other escort arrived, she had brought with her a large bag containing the biggest collection of vibrators, strap-on and other devices I have ever seen and just opening up this bag of goodies was like Christmas! We all had a fit of the giggles at one point as both me and the client tried to work out what one particular gadget was meant to be used for.
Anyway, a couple of expert users and one escort in particular (who I am not allowed to identify by name sadly) soon converted me to the joys of strap-ons. Apart from the delightful sensations that can be produced by another woman, who knows what its like to be penetrated and how nice it is to be fucked slow and sensuously as well as fast and hard, there is also the aesthetic appeal of seeing and stroking a woman's gentle curves and soft skin while at the same time watching her toned pelvic thrusting rhythmically as a long, hard protrusion from her pubis firmly penetrates your open sex.
Take this a step further and you want to know what it's like to be on the giving end. Of course, there are lots of opportunities to practice with other women but the interesting thing is the number of guys who admit to wanting to experience what it's like to be fucked to open themselves up to the other person and to feel something like what a woman feels during sex. It's not the effeminate guys either it's often the most macho ones and this is what makes it all the more exciting. A complete role-reversal really is interesting and the best thing about escort-sex is that it is completely safe you don't have to worry about the effect it will have on your relationship afterwards eg what if he decides he likes it so much he wants to do it all the time? Or, what if she decides I am not manly enough for her after this and doesn't fancy me anymore? You don't have to think about all that stuff if you enjoy it, fantastic; if you don't, just put it down to experience and try something else.
Strap-ons vary a lot, I've found. When you're experimenting for the first time (s) its definitely best to avoid the 8 inch whoppers that most sex-shops seem to specialize in. Something modestly-sized and pliable is best I like the expensive ones that are made to feel and look like the real thing, but the jelly type is nice too. It's also a good idea to try them on before buying to make sure that they are comfortable to wear and easy to put on! There is nothing worse than having to consult a manual when you've got someone lying on the bed in front of you begging to be rogered. The most fun type I think is a type that comes in the form of panties and has a clitoral stimulator attached to the other end, but I also like the ones which squirt pretend cum and the ones which vibrate and rotate, and I haven't so far found the ultimate strap-on which combines all these qualities. When I do, I'll let you know!
I love fucking guys. I like it when they make themselves vulnerable to me and let me use and abuse their bodies for my own pleasure. I think I was probably a complete cad in a previous life. My ultimate fantasy right now would be to dress an androgynous-looking guy up in a short but full skirt, high heels and tight-fitting top and take him (her) out to dinner, wearing my strap-on throughout the evening. Id gets him fairly drunk and light-headed and then invite him back for coffee. The moment we were inside my apartment, Id push him face-forward across the living-room table, pull down his panties and enter him forcefully, oblivious to his protests. I haven't quite found anyone to fulfil this fantasy yet it's the going out in a short skirt but that's the sticking point. However, I have done a lot of research on strap-ons and now know exactly which one I would use for the occasion.
