A dim red light casts shadows, and a sexy scent of leather tickles your nostrils… Sounds like BDSM? Fetishes are often somehow connected to BDSM practices, but not always! Above all, they’re an integral part of our erotic thoughts and a cross-section of diverse practices that can discreetly creep into our everyday lives and suddenly put us in a lustful mood. Perhaps you have one or two fetishes, but don’t even know it yet. You’re confused?
Fetishism and sexuality
Fetishism is characterized by eroticism when sexual arousal is triggered by the sight, touch, or smell of an object, a particular body part, or a situation.
Sexual attraction is very individual. Everyone has their own tastes, and you often hear someone say, “I like blonde women, blue eyes, tall people, a pretty face, or a round butt.” So, we’re able to list what turns us on and pinpoint exactly which body part or feature we’re most attracted to or like the most. Surely, each of you has thought at some point, “I love the way she smells.” Or, “That butt drives me crazy.” Or maybe, “It totally turns me on when she keeps her high heels on in bed.” These little things that turn us on and excite us, my dears, are what you call a fetish! Of course, it also depends on how strong this fetish is.
How is it that sexual attraction is directed at an object rather than another person?
According to some psychologists, fetishism develops through association. I’ll try to summarize his theory for you: A man has a hand fetish. He is attracted to women and especially likes their hands. He worships this particular body part and also likes it when women dress up their hands with jewelry. The man associates the woman’s hands with the rings she wears, and eventually, the mere sight of rings causes the man to get an erection. It’s that simple!
Fetish is a lot like love
When you hear the word fetish, you think of strange preferences, but ultimately, fetish is romantic! After all, it’s love that makes us nibble on our partner’s toes or smell our partner’s hair.
We will always be attracted to what we liked as children. Our first loves will determine our love life and our preferences forever. For example, if you liked it when your aunt wore a red dress as a child, you’ll probably still be into the color red as an adult. But don’t worry, it’s perfectly normal.
Our preferences in love are actually quite natural. Everyone has the right to walk, think, breathe, and love in their own way. And among these preferences, which are so individual, there are those we can talk about openly and those that are so intimate that we bury them deep in our hearts.
A question of attitude
When we hear fetish, we all immediately think of the classic Foot fetishists, who is considered crazy throughout the neighborhood and would sometimes masturbate in front of a shoe store window. While this fetish is widespread and probably one of the more sensual fetishes, it’s far from the only one. Buttocks, breasts, and belly buttons are also classic fetishes. Others are more focused on details and are into a certain timbre of a voice, a hair color, glasses, and anything else that makes the mind tingle with eroticism.
Aside from objects and body parts, you can also develop a fetish for an attitude or behavior. For example, one of you might be attracted to particularly casual, naughty, or elegant people. When these stereotypical behaviors are addressed in a role play and Fetish and BDSM meet, then things will get really exciting! The uniform fetishist can invite a hostess in a miniskirt into his living room and, with a pat on the bottom, ask if she’s the one serving dessert!
Smell so good
His or her scent is like a drug, best inhaled deep into the hollow of your throat. However, he or she wouldn’t have seduced you without the help of Mother Nature, who gently wafted the sweet scent right into your nose! For the smell fetishist, scents are the number one criterion for seduction! He is the smell lover, and he is very charming.
Certain fetishes are more or less tolerated depending on the culture. For example, among the indigenous population of the Philippines, the scent of a loved one triggers intense feelings of desire. This is why lovers exchange items of clothing they are wearing when they say goodbye, allowing them to inhale the scent of their loved one during the time of separation.
Silky soft, smooth and warm
What is the connection between silk, latex, leather and velvet? Of course, the softness of the materials, which glide gently over the skin and feel so pleasant. Fetishists want something more. That’s why they create their own fashion universe with tight-fitting trousers and leather suits. Fetishists naturally have very refined taste, something even the great designers like Dior know.
Bizarre is normal
Fetishism is nothing more than completely normal preferences in an exaggerated version. Fetishism in moderation is great if you’re able to accept and live out your erotic fantasies. So if licking feet makes you happy (like the famous director Tarantino), then just find a partner who enjoys that too. Everyone is allowed to love in their own way! Be open and tolerant of your own quirks.
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