An orgasm is just as complex as you’ve always imagined. While men only need a few rubs and maybe the sight of a beautifully shaped cleavage, women are much more demanding. The mood, the atmosphere, and the moment have to be perfectly aligned. Beforehand, there’s half an hour of petting to get her nice and wet, and afterward, her clitoris needs to be intensively cared for, from head to toe.
Sounds complicated? Is that too much for you? We’re here to tell you: it can be much easier!
What films and TV series, or the lawless internet, might tell us is utter nonsense. A woman’s orgasm is not the Loch Ness Monster, which rarely reveals itself – and somehow only in front of a shaky camera with what feels like 3 megapixels, and certainly not a complex, handcrafted art form.
Every woman has faked an orgasm at some point in her life. Admittedly, the average woman doesn’t see anything wrong with that, but imagine faking every orgasm. Day after day, year after year. That gets pretty annoying in the long run, doesn’t it? At some point, you lose the fun of sex, while your boyfriend proudly struts around afterwards and celebrates because he made you cum. You become more and more dissatisfied and eventually you might not feel any desire at all. You long for more. It builds up inside you, perhaps unnoticed, and at some point the volcano erupts. You bury your lover and your relationship under the hot lava, and that’s that.
The female orgasm should be a part of our lives, not something that makes us think, “Hmm, not today again? Okay.”
Anatomy of the vagina
So, let’s turn our attention to the so important and highly praised genitals and briefly and concisely illuminate the anatomy behind them:
Externally, everything you can see is that the vagina is clearly structured: labia, clitoris, mons pubis, vestibule, and urethral opening. Inside the vagina is an 8-12 cm long muscular tube. The vagina is connected to the uterus, which lies directly above it.
The clitoris is just the tip of the iceberg: the inner part of the clitoris extends inside the vagina to the G-spot. You’ve probably noticed the rough surface on the inside of your vagina, which is particularly vulnerable to friction and touch of all kinds. This is also (who would have thought) the G-spot.
The clitoris has over 8000 nerve endings, making it one of our most sensitive body parts.
The guilty hormones
Female libido is also often a matter of hormones: the desire for sex is nothing more than a hormonal cocktail of estrogen and neurotransmitters, which can quickly become unbalanced. Such an imbalance is referred to as hormonal imbalance. These fluctuations should not be taken lightly, as hormonal fluctuations can be responsible for more than just a loss of libido. Other symptoms include:
- Indigestion
- Hair loss
- Weight gain or loss
- Fatigue
- Depression
- Anxiety
It is important to always consult a specialist, as a balanced hormone balance is very important for the human body.
The Orgasm Workout
What you can do yourself
Sport
Pelvic floor exercises: This exercise isn’t as strenuous as it might sound. Simply inserting love balls vaginally and wearing them for a while is enough. The rotation and movement of the balls causes the pelvic floor to contract naturally. There are, of course, other methods, such as simple hip lifts, which strengthen the pelvic floor. But if you prefer something quick and easy, try the first one. A strong pelvic floor ensures greater mobility, more desire, and much more intense sex!
Yoga! No other sport is as effective and yet as simple as this one. Sure, it can sometimes be quite strenuous to stay in the bridge pose or in the happy baby pose for a while, but it’s worth it. It makes you wonderfully flexible and supple, while also training your sense of balance and ensuring a balanced body image.
Clarify thoughts
Shield yourself from all the beauty ideals that are shoved in your face every day on Instagram, Facebook, and the like. There’s no such thing as too thin, too fat, or too hairy… You have to feel comfortable in your own skin, THEN you’re beautiful!
Don’t worry about sucking in your stomach during sex, and don’t pay attention to your facial expressions – if you enjoy it with all your senses, you’ll automatically appear very sexy and sensual.
Masturbation
How long has it been since you were able to truly relax while masturbating? I don’t mean vigorously rubbing your poor clitoris just to get to the point quickly and precisely. Next time, just take more time, ensure you’re completely calm, and start touching yourself without any intention of orgasm. The pleasure will eventually come naturally.
What you can do with your partner
Communication
Have you ever told your partner how to best climax, or did you just let him do it? Next time you have sex, take matters into your own hands: masturbate during intercourse and show your partner what he needs to do to help you climax. Or simply masturbate completely in front of him, without touching him. We promise, this will turn him on like never before, and he’ll know how to do it to you in the future!
Create variety
You don’t have to rush to the nearest tantra class right away, but check out a few videos or tutorials on intimate massage. There, you’ll learn completely new techniques that you’ll definitely be able to use. A sensual intimate massage is sure to win your partner over. Afterward, they can proudly lift their chest and say, “I’m the best!” And you can nod in satisfaction.
Feel-good atmosphere
To achieve orgasm, women need not only dexterity and a great deal of imagination, but also an environment in which they can let go. Provide a distraction-free setting, turn off smartphones, and light a few scented candles. If a woman can clear her mind, she’ll find it much easier to orgasm.
New discoveries
It’s not always necessary for you to come together. Sure, it’s a nice feeling to know you’re reaching climax at the same moment, but just because the man is already done doesn’t mean the woman doesn’t want to be pampered anymore. If HE’s too exhausted afterward, you can simply sit comfortably on his face or even masturbate in front of him. He’ll probably want the next round…
But don’t just focus on the clitoris. Women are also incredibly sensitive around the neck, nipples, and inner thighs. Take a few quiet minutes to just lie there and caress each other. Before you do that, you can also watch a video about the erogenous zones you might want to try next time!
The 9 Ways to heaven
And since women aren’t exactly simple, we’ve got the 9 different types of female orgasm for you here. Yes, there are a whopping 9! And certainly not all of them:
- Clitoral orgasm
The clitoral orgasm is probably the most well-known on this list. Nearly 36 percent of all women reach orgasm through clitoral stimulation, and another 36 percent believe that orgasms from clitoral stimulation are much more powerful and intense than from vaginal stimulation. Get there with your fingers, your tongue, your penis or a toy.
- Vaginal orgasm
Yes, yes, the vaginal orgasm. We’ve had one before. Or .. we’ve pretended to have one. After all, many people don’t even know the clitoris exists. Only about 4 percent of women climax through vaginal stimulation. There’s definitely room for improvement!
- Cervical orgasm
Also known as an C-spot orgasm, the name probably makes you shake your head and shrug your shoulders. But you’ve probably experienced it before: in the cowgirl position, meaning she’s on top of her partner, she presses her pelvis firmly against his, and instead of the up-and-down movements, she now rubs herself against him. If you’ve done this before, you’ll know what this is about. In this position, the cervix is stimulated, which will give you particularly ecstatic orgasms!
- Dreamgasm
This is the name given to an orgasm that suddenly overcomes you after you’ve climaxed in an erotic dream. Unfortunately, this orgasm hasn’t been researched very well yet, but it’s said to be at least as intense as the clitoral one! So the next time you wake up with a twitch in your lower abdomen, stay in bed for a while and let your imagination do the work for a few more minutes. Or let your partner do it.
- Breast orgasm
A woman’s nipples are at least as sensitive as the clitoris. Nipple stimulation can also lead to an orgasm. Here, less is more! You should always start with very gentle and cautious touches until you roughly know your own pain threshold and how much is enough to arouse you.
- U-spot orgasm
The U-spot is located above a woman’s urethral opening. This is above the tiny hole where peeing actually occurs. Stimulating this tiny spot with a finger or a vibrator is said to make it feel like going to the bathroom – and leads to intense orgasms.
- Zone orgasm
Erogenous zones are no stranger to the word, but did you know that women can also have a great orgasm by stimulating precisely these? The inner thighs, the neck, the earlobes, or even the feet can be stimulated through caresses and touches. There’s not much to say about this in general, except: try it out for yourself and see what, where, and how you like it.
- Blended Orgasm
Blended means “mixed”: when a woman’s G-spot and clitoral stimulation are simultaneously stimulated, a very intense orgasm can be achieved. This works best with hands or a dildo.
- G-spot orgasm
Many have heard of it, but few have found it. It’s actually quite simple: if you insert your fingers into your vagina and curl them so that they touch the upper wall of your mons pubis, you’ve already found it. This spot feels very rough, and since most of the vaginal nerve endings are located there, the G-spot orgasm is a superlative climax!
As you can see, the female orgasm isn’t that easy to get, but with a few little tricks and tweaks, it’s not an unattainable goal. There are so many ways to make her climax, so it’s all about experimenting and getting to know your body in all its facets!
However, if orgasm is completely absent, we recommend consulting a specialist. It sometimes happens that a woman’s anatomy prevents her from having an orgasm at all. It sounds crazy, but it’s not a big deal.
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