Fingering a woman seems easy. But bringing her to climax with your fingers is actually a true art. If you master this art, you can not only arouse her desire with your own fingers, but also increase it and lay an intoxicating foundation for further play. Here are a few tips to help you learn how to finger properly.
When it comes to fingering, we often automatically think of our own puberty and the first clumsy attempts at intercourse. For some, fingering remains a kind of compulsory exercise long afterward, before penetration can begin. This, however, is a big mistake! Whether or not we master the art of fingering can make a big difference. Those who are good at fingering have a wonderful technique for arousing female desire, exploring their partner’s body with their hands, and providing their girl with intense pleasure, whether during foreplay or as the main act. In this guide, we think these are the most important tips for you so that you too can learn the art of fingering.
Why should you be fingering her?
For most people, fingering their partner becomes uninteresting after a certain time. In erotic foreplay, the fingers are still used. Many people are reminded of their own youth when they had little sexual experience. Fingering is a wonderful technique for arousing and arousing desire. Those who are good at fingering can not only increase their partner’s sexual arousal immeasurably, but also strengthen the bond within a relationship. We definitely think there are plenty of good reasons to pleasure your partner with your fingers.
Try something new
Fingering allows you to explore a different facet of erotic pleasure. Fingering is unfairly considered a typical sexual practice, usually used exclusively during foreplay. However, fingering is a great way to maximize arousal in a variety of ways. After all, you also benefit from watching your partner succumb to your finger play.
Gets her in the mood
The female body needs some time to be ready for sex. By vagina and clitoris stimulation with your fingers, you promote the production of natural lubrication, which makes penetration more enjoyable for both of you.
Suitable for discreet erotic play
Unlike penetration, fingering can also be done discreetly. The easiest way to do it in public is, of course, in a discreet location and if she is wearing a skirt or a dress. If you both feel like it, you can also try it in public places and enjoy the adrenaline rush.
A sensual alternative to penetration
To give your partner intense pleasure with your fingers, it’s not enough to simply move a finger back and forth and hope she likes it. It’s all about the right rhythm and a bit of feeling. It also doesn’t hurt to adapt your technique to her responses. Of course, every woman is unique, but there are some basic principles that will help you increase her pleasure immeasurably. We’ve compiled the most important tips to help you refine your technique.
Know the female anatomy
Before you get down to business, you should do some research so you know exactly which areas you should touch and why. If you’re not sure where the clitoris or G-spot are located, or how the female genital area is structured, you might need to spend some time in the female anatomy class. Google, Wikipedia, or specialized guides can surely help you quickly. The more familiar you are with the female body, the easier it will be for you to stimulate your partner well. And why not try some games for couples? Exploring your body together can be a great way to learn something and give her pleasure at the same time.
Prepare lubricant
Even if your partner produces a natural lubricant when she is aroused, a little helper can never hurt. Water-based lubricant makes your caresses even softer, smoother, and more enjoyable, while preventing unpleasant friction. Simply apply a small amount of lubricant to your fingers before you begin: the lubricant will enhance your sensation and make the experience even more stimulating. And if your partner is already very aroused, the lubricant will only increase her pleasure!
Explore her body
Before you get down to business, take some time to get her body in the mood. Ask her to take off her underwear, or do it yourself for a sensual touch. Or, if you know your partner is sensitive to intimate touch, stimulate her through the clothes first by gently stroking the area where her clitoris is. Every woman is different, so pay attention to her reactions, such as her breathing, goosebumps, or movements. These can all be clues to help you adjust your finger play. The important thing is to go gradually, adjusting your rhythm and the pressure of your fingers to her desire, so that she can fully engage with you and feel included in the moment.
Vary the technique
Now that you’re more familiar with the female anatomy and your partner’s responses, it’s time to experiment with different techniques to find out what gives her the most pleasure. Every woman is unique, and trying different approaches will help you refine your technique and better adapt your rhythm to her desires and preferences. Here are some techniques you can try:
Stimulate the clitoris
The clitoris is the key to orgasm for most women. Start by gently stroking the clitoris with a finger, always through the skin to avoid overstimulating it. Vary your movements: make small circles, stroke back and forth, from top to bottom, or left to right… Let her reactions guide you, and don’t forget the lube!
Stroke extensively
To diversify your pleasure, try longer, flowing strokes. Glide your finger from the bottom of her vagina to the top of her vulva, gently exploring every nook and cranny. With this type of caress, you can gradually increase her pleasure while maximizing her sexual arousal.
Use multiple fingers at the same time
Our hands have several fingers. Be sure to use them all. Once you feel your partner is ready, you can use several fingers to massage the clitoris and labia simultaneously. With three or four fingers (excluding the thumb), you can make circular movements or stroke a wider area for more intense stimulation. Simply adjust the pressure and number of fingers to suit your individual needs.
Exploring the U-Point
The U-spot is an often overlooked but highly sensitive area. It’s located between the clitoris and vagina, near the urethral opening, and forms a sort of small erogenous triangle. Stimulate this area with a little lubricant and a finger, using gentle, light movements, and observe your partner’s reactions. This is a great way to vary the pleasure and discover new sensations.
Massage the G-spot
If she feels comfortable in the situation and is ready for more, you can insert a finger into the vagina and search for the famous G-spot. The G-spot is a slightly rougher tissue on the front wall of the vagina, a few centimeters deep. Sensual massage of the G-spot can provide intense pleasure. Gentle pressure or a gentle pulsation works best. If you notice that she likes it, you can explore this area further while maintaining clitoral stimulation for even more intense sensations.
Try anal stimulation (if she’s up for it)
If your partner is on anal stimulation, you can use your fingers to pamper another erogenous zone. The backdoor is a very sensitive erogenous zone, but it lacks natural lubrication. Therefore, you should always use your fingers for anal stimulation. Use enough lubricant and proceed carefully and slowly. First, apply light, gentle pressure to the area around the anus and then slowly penetrate the back door. For hygiene reasons, you should never insert a finger that you have used for anal stimulation vaginally to avoid the transmission of bacteria and germs.
With these tips and ideas, you can refine your technique. Also, always pay attention to her reactions. Then you can look forward to unforgettable moments together.
Simultaneously stimulate other erogenous zones to increase your pleasure
Now that you’ve mastered finger play, you can also focus on other erogenous zones. Pleasure is even more intense when it comes from multiple places at once. While you’re letting your fingers play with your partner’s intimate area, you can explore other erogenous zones on her body with your mouth and hands, for example.
The breasts are a classic: If she’s into it, you can kiss and lick her breasts, suck on her nipples, or nibble on them. Her neck and throat are also very sensitive areas where light kisses or gentle bites can trigger a wonderful tingling sensation. And don’t forget the ears! These are another, often underestimated, area to play with.
Of course, you can enjoy the classic Kiss. Do not neglect! A long, deep kiss while you finger her will intensify her sexual arousal and make her even more receptive to the stimulation from your fingers. When you combine all of this, you’ll offer your partner a comprehensive sensory experience that will lead her to even greater pleasure.
Experiment with a sex toy
If you want to take the experience even further or are starting to get tired, you can bring sex toys into your erotic play. A mini vibrator or a clitoral stimulator can increase your pleasure tenfold and allow you to explore other forms of pleasure together.
By using a vibrating sex toy in addition to your fingers, you offer your partner a continuous and intense form of stimulation, which is ideal for bringing her to orgasm more quickly or giving her the opportunity to multiple orgasms one after the other. Simply hold the sex toy lightly against the outside of your clitoris while you continue to play with your fingers, or insert it gently if you know your partner agrees.
It’s important to always proceed gradually and observe her reactions. Some women love the intensity of the vibrations, others prefer a gentler approach. By trying different combinations of fingers and sex toys, you’re sure to find the perfect mix to maximize her pleasure. And if this is her first time using a sex toy, this might be a good opportunity to try it out!
Have tissues ready
After such an intense experience of pleasure, it is always nice to take care of each other even beyond the orgasm.
Bringing a woman to climax by fingering her (especially when she squirts), can leave quite a mark. In this case, a small, simple gesture can make a big difference: give her a tissue or a towel so she can quickly wipe herself up afterward.
With this small gesture, you show that you care about her well-being. At the same time, you prolong the moment together. Some women are very sensitive after orgasm. So let her catch her breath, cuddle with her if she feels like it, and enjoy this moment together. It’s just a small detail, but it makes you a caring lover!
Fingering a woman is an art. And as with many things, practice makes perfect! Don’t put yourself under pressure if things don’t go perfectly right from the start. Over time, you’ll refine your technique and learn to better understand what she really likes. The most important thing is to continually listen to her desires and reactions.
Every woman is different, and the best experience will always be the one that brings the most pleasure to her partner. So, have fun and use the moment to strengthen your bond. Have fun exploring and enjoying it!
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