Exciting sex – if those words made you squint in irritation, we can reassure you: sex is, of course, always exciting! In its own unique way.
You never know how sex will go today. Will I have a super orgasm? Or should we try that new position I recently discovered? Does he perhaps have a surprise in store for me, like a completely new technique? We always approach things with a certain expectation. After all, we humans are creatures of habit, but when it comes to the most wonderful thing in the world, we want excitement. Action. Excitement, and if possible, no lingering monotony!
Unfortunately, the reality is quite different. For many people, it’s perfectly acceptable to have a quickie in the missionary position before bed just so they can get to sleep quickly afterward. We don’t have the energy to try new things or have become too comfortable, so we don’t see the point in bringing a breath of fresh air into the bedroom. It’s not even necessary, is it? But it is!
But what do we consider “exciting”? Exciting is sex that stands out from the bigger picture. Something that surprises us or is even completely foreign. Exciting sex doesn’t necessarily mean a quickie in the locker room. It can also be incredibly exciting to sleep together in your own bed, just like always, but perhaps with a little more excitement: With a blindfold, the rest of our body’s senses become more sensitive, which is why even the same position as always seems particularly exciting. It’s the little things that can be incorporated into lovemaking!
Tips and tricks for exciting sex
Build anticipation
Send your loved one a clearly ambiguous text message like, “When you get home, something’s waiting for you…” A winking smiley will definitely keep them from thinking the vacuum cleaner is already lurking in the hallway, ready for use.
Hot pictures are also a welcome change to get your loved one excited before your meeting. You can either wear beautiful lingerie or simply pull up your blouse at the office – that’ll be enough to provide plenty of fodder for the imagination. But be careful: don’t get caught, and avoid taking pictures of your face.
If you’re already at home, the classic method works well: instead of rose petals, scatter your clothes on the way to the bedroom. In this order: shoes, jacket, pants, shirt, bra, and then hang your panties on the bedroom door. He won’t be able to resist this tingling surprise!
Sex in an unusual place
Is your bed at home your sex paradise? Then you should definitely broaden your horizons! You don’t have to rush off to the movies with him just to give him a blowjob in the movie theater. A nighttime drive in the car, parked in a secluded spot, is enough. If you don’t want to venture completely out into the open, the stairwell is also a great location, as the steps allow for completely new positions, and you can also hear if someone is on their way over…
Be open to new things
New experiences will spice up your love life! Try role-playing or learn new sex techniques that you can show each other or use together. Buy lingerie that you particularly like – no matter how extravagant it may be! Try new practices like BDSM, bondage, slow sex, tantra, etc. After all, you have nothing to lose, and if you don’t like something, you’ll always have plenty to laugh about.
Check off unrealistic expectations
Everything you see in porn should be quickly forgotten. We’re not always perfectly shaved or wearing seductive makeup. We don’t always wear the hottest and skimpiest underwear under our clothes, and we certainly don’t run up to the door half-naked to greet the repairman! We’re all imperfect, and we have to accept that. Did you fart vaginally last time? Then just laugh about it! Did you forget to shave your legs? Nobody cares during sex anyway!
Relax and be yourself: only then will you have the best sex of your life!
Express your wishes and desires openly
Talk to your partner about your wildest fantasies. What’s on your mind? What you’ve ALWAYS wanted to try. Healthy and honest communication is the key to the most exciting sex you’ll ever have.
Monogamy isn’t for you?
Then visit a swingers club! And no, it’s not just a bunch of old guys having wild sex in the bar, and certainly not right in front of you. Swingers clubs unfortunately still have a very bad reputation due to insufficient word-of-mouth, but things are much more chaste there than you might imagine.
If you’re not into random sex, there are still countless online portals where you can arrange to meet for consensual sex. Whether you’re single, a couple, or with several people: the focus here is on pleasure. Or you can book a bisexual escort for a threesome.
Bed games
Incorporate sex toys and accessories into your lovemaking. Try intense oral sex or even deepthroat, but without the intention of necessarily having an orgasm. Tie each other up with a belt or blindfold each other: It’s the little things that make all the difference.
Spontaneity
While it’s not always easy to find a way to be spontaneous in your daily life, it’s not impossible. With spontaneous gestures and little surprises, you can ensure that excitement stays at a higher level and boredom doesn’t stand a chance.
If spontaneity is really out of the question for you due to a busy schedule, then we recommend setting a fixed date for sex. The anticipation of this day will be at least as great as if you were to spontaneously surprise each other!
Push the pain threshold
We all love gentle pain during sex. A gentle nibble on the neck, a loving pat on the bottom, or a tender tug of our hair. Some like it that way, others a little harder. We don’t mean BDSM or sadomasochism by that. You can approach it in small steps and start by gently spanking your bottom with a fine whip, for example.
Silent Sex
It doesn’t always take a lot of words to turn someone on. Try just saying nothing during sex. Nothing! Tones and other syllables are certainly allowed, but no one needs to tell the other person how hot or beautiful they are. You can do that just as well with looks!
Solo sex for two
Masturbation is a wonderful thing. If you can watch your partner doing it, it’s even better. But if you both masturbate at the same time and watch each other, that’s a whole different story! This is a great way to show your partner what you’re into and build trust at the same time. After all, masturbation was always just for you!