It has a reputation like an old sofa: comfortable, familiar, just there – but exciting? Not at all. The missionary position has long been relegated to the ” boring, because it’s vanilla-sweet ” category. But in reality, it’s the opposite: incredibly intimate, surprisingly versatile, and packed with possibilities for all those who crave closeness, control, and a bit of playfulness.
The missionary position isn’t outdated. It’s a raw piece of clay – ready to be transformed into a little masterpiece by curious hands.
A classic with vibes
The missionary position is often underestimated – a bit like armadillos.
Sounds strange? Armadillos can be more interesting than you think. These little animals aren’t just using the classic sex positions, but in the wild, they also diversify (yes, really).
With a vibrator, a buttplug or with another sex toy, this sexual experience gets a whole new lease on life. Whether it hums softly, pulsates rhythmically, or provides pinpoint stimulation, such a toy can make all the difference. It can be the difference between having or not having an orgasm. And all without changing the dynamics. Intimacy remains, control too, only the tingling sensation becomes more intense.
Want more? You can play with a vibrating buttplug for anal pressure and extra stimulation . Small addition, big effect.
More Than a Pillow Trick
Anyone who says the missionary position always has to look the same has probably never used a firm pillow as a game-changer. Because with the right support under the pelvis, not only does the angle change – but the entire feeling of the act.
A raised pelvis means more depth, more pressure, more friction in exactly the right places. The G-spot? It almost makes itself known. That doesn’t just sound promising – it is.
And if you think that’s it, here comes the real upgrade: the infinity figure eight. A fluid, controlled movement that feels almost hypnotic:
You (or the person opposite you) lie on your back, the pillow under your buttocks ensures the perfect height.
Legs positioned, ready to tense the body.
The man lies stretched out over her, supporting himself on his arms, eye contact guaranteed.
In this position, the thrusts become a circular hip movement. It’s less about speed and more about discovering a shared rhythm. The focus is not the destination, but on the journey.
Sounds gentle? It doesn’t have to be. This position allows for a lot of flexibility. From slow and sensual to controlled and dominant. Those who want to lead can. Those who want to submit can too. All with consent.
And of course: Switch it up!
The missionary position also works wonderfully with a strap-on. Then the focus is on female domination – perfect for any man who enjoys passive anal stimulation. Role reversal included? Yes, please.
The lotus position: For deep gazes
This position also begins – unsurprisingly – with her lying on their back. However, this time he is not lying on top, but kneeling over the body – upright, present, ready to lead.
You can pull her legs as close to the hips as possible. It sounds simple, but it makes a huge difference: the sensation changes depending on the position of the thighs. A wider angle can facilitate movement and help both partners discover what feels right. Those who enjoy deep thrusts and also value eye contact and control will love this variation.
A pillow under the pelvis? Great idea! Because here, too, the slight elevation ensures that the angle is correct for maximum skin contact and the famous wow effect with every thrust. You may want to give her an orgasm with your tongue first, that would be much appreciated! Not to mention that it’s very easy to raise her legs in the air and stick your tongue in her ass too! While down there, you can also enjoy the view of her rubbing her clit just an inch away from your eyes, hear her moaning and feel her moving up and down…
The lotus position may be calm, but it’s not passive. It’s intense, but not overwhelming. And above all: perfect for men who don’t need to shout domination, but can show it through posture.
Let the body dictate the direction
This position isn’t suitable for small beds – but definitely for adventurous kinksters who enjoy changing positions.
Prerequisites: space to stretch out and a curiosity for new dynamics.
A person lies stretched out on their side.
The other person lies on their back at a right angle to the first, so that their genitals are at the same level.
During penetration, the legs can be relaxed and rest on the hips – or, if the thighs cooperate, remain bent in the air. When the legs are in the air, the penetration can be deeper and the movements easier, but it takes a good physical condition to sustain this position.
During penetration, the gaze rests on each other – passionate, present, perhaps even a little demanding. Her legs can rest on his hips or, with some body tension, be held up in the air. This creates space: for slow gliding, targeted thrusts, or the slight trembling as the legs begin to give way.
The best part? She can use her hands. And they can wander curiously: over the thighs, to particularly sensitive areas – or to where touch is perceived as especially intense. A gentle caress, a surprising pressure, a playful touch – anything that feels good and has been agreed upon is allowed.
This position is a little unconventional – in the best sense. Intimate, exciting, and full of small opportunities to maintain control or consciously let go.
This position is also called T-square or T-position. It may be a low-energy position, but it can bring great pleasure!
Missionary? Yes, please – but add your own twist
The missionary position isn’t a boring classic. It’s perfect for intimacy, control and creative additions. A toy, a pillow or a finger in the ass – any small adjustments can transform this familiar position into a whole new experience.
Sometimes soft and sensual, sometimes deep and dominant, and sometimes both. Whether you lead, submit or switch roles midway through, in the end, only one thing matters: that it feels good. Because the real appeal lies not in the position itself, but in what you make of it.
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