Does your girlfriend want to masturbate together, but you’re having second thoughts? Isn’t that just her way to show you she’s open to new things? Sex is only getting better, unless you say no.
You should understand why she wants to watch you masturbate – because we love watching women touch themselves. You suspect that you’ll look ridiculous and maybe you have little things like touching your balls or putting a finger up your ass while masturbating, but the truth is we all have kinks. You know that she has orgasms just by playing with her clit, but don’t you think she can have even stronger orgasms if you put a buttplug in her ass and continue to lick her? Of course, if she just wants to masturbate, don’t interrupt her and don’t turn it into a 69, you can take over after she cums. Just enjoy the show!
When you hear “masturbation”, you imagine someone sitting alone in their room pleasuring themselves. But masturbating together is so much more interesting! Once you do it, you realise what you’ve been missing out – a lot of fun, and more. We’ll tell you what we think about it and what that “more” is.
Why is self-pleasure with a partner good for your sex life?
The fact that your partner finds it hot to masturbate together would be a good reason in itself. But it will probably help you much more if you consider why YOU should find it good (and hot).
When you watch her pleasuring herself, you learn exactly how she likes to be touched and what makes her cum. It’s important to notice her finger movements, the speed of her fingers rubbing her clit, how deep she goes with her fingers and what she does with her other hand – she may be squeezing a nipple, or putting a finger or a toy in her ass. Or jerk you off – that’s a nice feeling! You need to learn those things about her even if you don’t want to masturbate together, it will make you a better lover.
The same applies to her – she also learns something about you this way. She sees what excites you when you masturbate or during sex. If you decide to go for it, you’ll see an improvement in bed. And don’t worry, your secret is safe with us. What secret? The fact that what turns you on when in bed with her is the fact that you’re in bed with her! Most of the time, we don’t need any extra stimulation, just a naked woman in our bed.
Watching your partner masturbate and opening up to them in that way adds a thrill to the relationship because it’s a new way to have sex, even without physical contact. If you think your relationship doesn’t need a thrill – well, be honest: you can never have too many thrills!
This way of masturbating in front of another person is a very intimate thing that can strengthen the relationship. And it opens the gate to cumming on her face, on her tits or in her mouth, while you’re completely in control. Or focus on her orgasm and give her another one, but with your fingers and with your tongue.
Masturbating together is a great opportunity. You can try out new toys that you might not have dared to use before, or show her how you use them and get the most out of them. Learn about toys like clit suckers, g-spot vibrators, anal beads, vibrating rings, prostate vibrators, masturbators and all the toys you can use when masturbating together. You can try out dirty talking when masturbating together. You can masturbate each other, or just start that way, and continue with an intense 69, or just fuck like crazy – either way, masturbating together is to thank for.
Too shy? Here are some tips for masturbating together!
Most men had the problem that they thought looked stupid when they gave in to their passion. That’s why it’s so strange when someone suddenly watches you masturbate. It’s like letting them get very, very close. Or it may feel like getting caught. But isn’t getting caught having sex kinda hot? Didn’t you secretly hope, when you were younger, that your girlfriend’s mother will catch you while having sex? And join you, and teach you some tricks? Was it just us then? Yes, we do find mature ladies to be very hot, and we definitely love threesomes, and we fantasise about a threesome with a young girl and her mom (or stepmom), and seeing them kiss each other and eat each other out. Some of us still do. Luckily, you can book a couple of bisexual escorts and live this fantasy out.
When you watch her, she’s not hiding anything. She’s showing you on purpose what she looks like when she’s completely lost in the moment. She’s showing you how she gets an orgasm without you. Did you think she looked stupid while she was doing it? Be honest, were you really looking at her face and analyzing it? Or were you just swept away by the whole scene and didn’t care at all how she looked? How hard was your cock while watching her cum?
It sometimes helps to start by observing yourself. You could film yourself with your phone, but you may find it even better to masturbate in front of a mirror. That’s more direct and really a turn on.
Are you even more shy now? Like, really, really shy?
Then try it under a blanket the first time. Go for it, or bring each other to orgasm. Next time, you’ll take the blanket off, or it won’t bother you anymore if it slips off on its own.
We’re not going to tell you that you’re special and nothing ever can go wrong, it’s not an encouraging article, it’s a guide. We can tell you that you’ll definitely have a lot of fun with your girl if you start sharing your kinks and fetishes. Masturbating together is a great start – is doing what you do anyway, just together instead of alone, but there are lots of things to try out and enjoy. Maybe her next move is to send you pics of her buttplug while you’re at work (to make you run home for a quickie in your lunch break), or try anal or to have a threesome with her best friend.
It’ll be May soon, it’s getting warm, you can throw back the blankets and have some fun just the two of you! Oh, and leave the lights on (if it’s night time). You know you like what you see!
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