The term BDSM describes all the sexual practices that are a bit riskier than usual. Defined in the 1900s, the acronyms stand for: Bondage, Discipline, Sadism, and Masochism. Sometimes people use the term “sadomasochism” as a synonym, although the difference between the two terms is the diversity of the BDSM practices.
What does each letter mean?
Bondage
Bondage refers to restraint. Specifically, the practice of tying people up and restricting their movements. In BDSM, it’s common for a master-slave relationship type to be established. The person being bound consents to the other person tying them up using ropes or other types of restraints, thus creating the asymmetrical power of the dominant-submissive relationship.
Discipline
In BDSM, rules are agreed upon and behavioral protocols and punishments are followed (like in 50 Shades of Grey).
The letter D also stands for domination. One of the people involved assumes the role of the dominant, while the other person (or persons) will play the role of the submissive, after prior agreement.
The dominant person (dom domme) ensures the enjoyment and pleasure of the situation, making it clear at all times that the intention is not to harm the submissive person (sub), but to give them pleasure.
Submission
The person who assumes the role of submissive must do so voluntarily. This person is responsible for receiving all the pleasure provided by the Dominant during erotic games and practices.
It is common for the submissive to allow a variety of BDSM, erotic, and sexual practices by the Dominant. However, if you are not comfortable, you can stop the actions of your Dominant, who must agree to stop the activities immediately.
Sadism
A sadist is a person that gets sexual pleasure by causing pain, humiliation or discomfort. The participants have to previously agree with this situation.
Sadism must not violate the parameters established by the participants. The intention of this practice is not to harm the person being subjugated or humiliated, but rather to provide sexual gratification in a moment of eroticism that is not functioning properly.
Criminal sadism should not be confused with these practices because, unlike the first, this other is practiced without the consent of the person being subjected and this is a crime.
Masochism
The masochist is the person who draws satisfaction from pain. It is the counterpart of the sadistic person. The person who practices masochism derives sexual pleasure from humiliation, pain and discomfort provoked by another person.
Against appearance, the masochist has total control over the situation. They can define the moments when breaks should be established and when sexual activity ends. These practices must be fully agreed upon, and the boundaries of the subject must be respected.
Although not part of the BDSM acronym, fetish practices are usually present during all BDSM activities.
How to practice BDSM with an escort
Rules
You must first contact one of the escort agencies that provide these services, and determine which BDSM roles you wish to perform and what her preferences are. Therefore, at this point in the negotiation, the rules to be followed during the erotic activity must be established.
No escort wishes to be beaten or hurt during her services without prior notice. For this reason, it is of utmost importance to establish the parameters by which the session will be conducted; and you, you must respect her decisions.
Limitations
Both you and your BDSM escort should establish boundaries that will guide the BDSM activity. These boundaries can vary, from not wanting to engage in deep oral or anal sex to not wanting to engage in harsh spanking.
The boundaries set by both must be made clear and must be respected by both BDSM partners.
Tricks
The things experienced during BDSM practice must be simple to be effective. The simpler, the better. Experiencing new things always brings surprises.
Some specific words, movements, or gestures should be prescribed to indicate that the activity should continue, like for speeding up, slowing down, pausing or for a break. The dominant should ask the submissive from time to time how they’re feeling.
BDSM experts are masters of pleasure; they tend to respect and care deeply for the person they dominate. This is because, beyond the sexual act, they engage in a relationship of trust.
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