Orgasm during sex – the best possible thing
Everyone knows it, but not everyone has had the privilege of experiencing it: the orgasm. As legendary as an ancient myth, we were indoctrinated with stories of a fireworks display of emotions and a deliberate loss of control over our bodies from adolescence onward. That we MUST have an orgasm. Period, end of story. It’s no surprise that our sense of failure is so strongly triggered when it doesn’t happen. We suffer from increased pressure to perform, wanting to demonstrate our skills in bed with unconditional perfection in order to elicit an orgasm. The formula here is: Sex = Orgasm.
How would YOU describe an orgasm?
Some say it’s a pulsating tremor that builds up gradually and then crashes over you like a wave. Others describe a feeling of electric shocks that charge the body and make the muscles twitch. Many also speak of an ecstasy that rises up the spine and spreads throughout the body.
Everyone experiences orgasm differently, and that’s a good thing! It would be boring to hear about the same experiences over and over again.
But what makes an orgasm so intoxicating?
- During an orgasm, the reward center in the brain is activated
- Neurotransmitters such as dopamine (the happiness hormone) and oxytocin (the “cuddle hormone”) are released and provide an intense feeling of joy and trust
- The orgasm itself is expressed through uncontrolled muscle contractions, which lead to ejaculation in men
- The orgasm “discharges” quickly and abruptly and creates a rush-like feeling that lasts on average around 3-12 seconds for men and even up to 40 seconds (!) for women
- After orgasm, prolactin is released, which provides satisfaction, connection with the partner and absolute calm
A quick note: Don’t be mad at your partner if they’re so tired after sex; it’s not their fault!
Some facts about orgasms that you probably didn’t know!
- Sex followed by orgasm burns as many calories as a 20-minute walk with stairs
- An orgasm strengthens the immune system and effectively relieves pain
- 80% of women have faked it, while for men it is just 25
- A daily orgasm makes you young and keeps you fit
- Until the last century, scientists claimed that there was no female orgasm
- An orgasm has the same stimulating effect on the brain as harder drugs
- Two-thirds of all women have had multiple orgasms
- There are even reports of women who have fainted during orgasm due to the overstimulation
- An orgasm makes you tired and is therefore a natural sleep aid
- Approximately 4% of women reach orgasm through vaginal penetration, whereas 30% of women reach orgasm purely through clitoral stimulation and 52% through simultaneous stimulation
The desperate search
It’s not unknown that women ejaculate much less often than men. It’s often said that we women are far too complicated and therefore have more difficulty reaching orgasm than the simple world of men. Yes, it’s true: women are much more complex than men. Physically as well as psychologically. Back then, women’s lack of desire was often blamed on their souls, but that’s no longer the trend these days. It’s usually caused by fears, problems, or doubts, but physical aspects like illness or unsuitable medication shouldn’t be ignored either. If your lack of desire has progressed so far that it’s causing you psychological distress, don’t be afraid to ask an expert for advice. And even if it takes a lot of courage and determination, it’s worth it!
At this point, I’d like to address another important topic: Yes, dear women, even the toughest men can fake orgasms! And it doesn’t sound so different from ours: loud moans, audible breathing, a shaky body tension followed by an abrupt release until complete relaxation. Does that sound familiar? Especially if the man is wearing a condom, it’s difficult to tell whether he actually came or not. Faking a male orgasm can have many reasons, but they are very similar to those women do. But you shouldn’t stone your loved one for that; after all, we women sometimes do it every day…
However, faking orgasms should definitely not become a habit. On the contrary: If you notice that you’re not happy with it, then it’s time to do something about it!
A faked orgasm with a stated unsatisfied feeling can lead to various problems.
For example…
- even more sexual disinterest, as no satisfaction sets in (the vicious circle)
- increased pressure to perform and fear of failure
- psychological problems, such as depression or low self-esteem
- the internal pressure also causes physical complaints, such as high blood pressure or back pain
- intentional or unintentional passive aggressive behavior towards one’s partner or oneself
And much more.
But before we give you some advice on how you and your partner can (almost) guarantee orgasm, we need to make one thing clear: if you feel happy and satisfied despite faking or failing to achieve orgasm, and your partner doesn’t mind, then you shouldn’t try to change anything! If it’s not broken, don’t fix it!
Orgasm during sex
For men
A thorough intimate massage can work wonders! You don’t even have to be a professional to deliver a good hand job. Simply rubbing your partner or yourself with plenty of lubricant or a suitable massage oil is enough, and then just get started! Feel free to experiment and see what you like or what makes you tingle. If you’re unsure how to proceed, you can also take an online course that you can join directly. Porn is usually not reflecting reality.
If you’re unsure how best to go about it, we recommend booking an escort. They know how to give the best hand jobs, it’s their job! Book a bisexual escort and she can teach you some techniques and little tricks that are sure to drive your loved one crazy. And you can enjoy her too!
Many people immediately think of the term prostate massage: “I’m not gay!” Even though everything in a man’s ass area is immediately associated with homosexuality, one shouldn’t ignore the good old prostate. The man’s prostate is located roughly in the same “hand area” as a woman’s G-spot: you sit in front of the man and turn your palm towards you. If you then penetrate with your finger (and lots of lubricant and extreme caution!) and make that typical “come here!” movement, you should be able to feel a soft and smooth spot. When the man starts gasping for breath, you know you’ve come to the right place. Now, whatever you like is allowed. A gentle stroke or a rhythmically coordinated massage is very stimulating and will make even the most rock-hard guy purr. A nice side effect: a prostate massage prevents cancer and ensures intense orgasms! If you don’t want to do it, make him a present: book him a prostate massage escort or give him a prostate massager. He will thank you!
Sometimes it’s difficult to reach the prostate with bare fingers, which is why there are plenty of vibrators on the market designed for exactly this purpose.
Sex toys can also help
A cock ring is ideal for anyone suffering from premature ejaculation. The gentle pressure on the shaft ensures that the blood that arouses the penis cannot flow back into the body. This allows you to last longer, and orgasm is guaranteed. This should make your partner especially happy.
If you’re not sure which size is right, always go for the smallest model and then gradually increase.
For women
Communication is important in a relationship. Nothing is more important than expressing your wishes and needs. After all, none of us can read minds, let alone predict the future.
Communication doesn’t necessarily have to be verbal. It’s enough to tell your partner during sex to touch certain parts of your body, or simply change positions without saying a word. This can work wonders and make your partner even hotter! Do you disagree? Make sure he sees you putting a finger in your ass, and see his reaction.
Showing is better than copying! Masturbating in front of your partner might seem a little strange at first, but this uncertainty will disappear once you see how horny it will make your lover. The fact is that men love being able to watch masturbation. After all, it’s a very intimate and personal moment. It builds self-confidence, trust in their partner, and creates a relaxed atmosphere, which makes it much easier to climax.
Instead of caressing each other during foreplay, you should simply masturbate in front of each other. Each of you on your own, only watching is allowed. What happens next is up to you!
The most common reason for a female orgasm to not be A-level is a full head. “Do I look good? Am I sucking in my stomach enough? Is he staring at my cellulite? Am I perhaps too fat or too thin? What if I don’t come again?”… All of these thoughts prevent the body from relaxing, and you can’t even enjoy the excitement. You should consider adding relaxation exercises to your daily routine. Meditation, yoga, or even just a small ritual to strengthen and organize your thoughts are known to be successful options. Learn to love your body the way it is, and you will then naturally radiate this energy outward, which is very appealing and attractive!
If the lack of orgasm becomes a burden, you should consider asking an expert or therapist for advice.
Training of superlatives
Pelvic floor training is a proven method for increasing female libido. Controlled contraction of the pelvic floor muscles activates these muscles, which not only promotes a straight posture and prevents incontinence, but also increases desire. There are countless exercises available online that you can do not only comfortably while lying down or sitting, but also passively: insert love balls vaginally and wear them for a while. The movement of the balls encourages the pelvic floor muscles to contract, thus training them automatically. It’s important to note that you should start with a short wearing time and then gradually increase the time.
Sit up straight and ensure your feet are firmly planted. Breathe deeply into your belly and then exhale. Do you feel something moving up and down in your abdomen? That’s your pelvic floor. You can train it right now by specifically tensing the muscles and then releasing them again.
When it comes to oral sex, opinions are divided. You either hate it or love it. There’s no in-between, and that’s perfectly fine. Oral sex as foreplay is the best lubricant there is. After all, it specifically stimulates the clitoris, which increases arousal and builds anticipation. The same motto applies here: whatever feels good and pleases you is allowed!
How about a little game during oral sex? Your partner can “draw” letters on your vagina with his tongue, and then you can guess which one it is!
Slow sex is the study of slow, thoughtful sex. Here, the focus is not only on the climax, but much more on the journey. Lie down on the bed, completely relaxed, undress, and then simply start caressing each other. Direct penetration is also permitted, but only very slowly and with great sensuality.
An intimate massage from your loved one is a must. A few well-oiled touches can work wonders, and you’ll surely discover new areas of pleasure you never knew existed! The proof of the pudding is in the eating!
If you’d rather study in order to make sure nothing goes wrong, book a facesitting escort and practice all you want. You may go the extra mile and try ass rimming! If you’d like to see an orgasm happening literally in front of your eyes, we suggest booking one of our squirting ladies.