Bondage is a familiar term to everyone, especially after watching Fifty Shades of Grey. But if the alarm bells are ringing in your head that you’ll be lying on the bed tied up like a Christmas roast or hanging from the ceiling, rest assured, that’s definitely not the case. Want to know how bondage can still be something for you? Then you can tentatively enter the world of dark lust with soft bondage. Completely without restraints or with minimal restraints, and without the feeling of having to submit.
What is bondage?
Bondage is a form of BDSM. Ropes or special restraints are used to restrain hands and feet. Freedom of movement is restricted, creating a power imbalance. In this situation, one partner has the upper hand. This partner is often referred to as the Dom or Dominatrix, and the bound partner as the Sub. It’s a type of role play and a game of power and dominance. Bondage can go very far and can also involve pain and special stimuli. Beginners often immediately think of BDSM when they think of the Fifty Shades of Grey film series. It must be clearly stated that BDSM is very romanticized in these films. There are various types of bondage, such as functional bondage, decorative bondage, torture bondage, or the meditative form. As you can see, the subject of bondage itself is very broad.
What is soft bondage?
Soft bondage is, as mentioned above, the “beginner” form of bondage. We can say that almost everyone has come into contact with soft bondage at some point. While the power dynamic is usually the focus of more advanced SM / bondage games, the exact opposite is true with soft bondage. You and your partner explore new boundaries together and learn new practices, all slowly and lovingly. From a simple blindfold to playfully forcing the hands above the head to tying the hands together with a tie or bondage rope, all of this is already soft bondage. Tying up to the point of immobility is definitely not the goal of soft bondage. So you can sit back and relax and breathe new life into your love life.
Benefits of soft bondage in your love life
Even a fulfilling sex life can be further enhanced with new practices. Getting to know new boundaries and trying out new ideas can be very exciting and rekindle your desire. Self-confidence is also a big aspect. If you can say exactly what you want and to what extent you’ll let others do whatever they want to you “quietly” or not, you can take control of your sex life. This gives you a new sense of physical security. You learn about your limits and can redefine them.
By letting go of the “rules”, you can also relax and find peace. Turn off your mind and let your partner take control. Surrender unconditionally and feel only with your senses for absolute relaxation, maybe even with multiple orgasms. Yes, you read that right. By stimulating all of your senses and the new feelings you discover within yourself, your body can react much more intensely, leading you to multiple orgasms. Sex is much more varied, and you can explore with your partner whether you are submissive or dominant. This realization can also awaken new passions.
How do I start with soft bondage?
For the first steps, we recommend a simple tie or a scarf. You can take it slowly at first.
Have yourself blindfolded during sex, or blindfold your partner. Experience everything completely blindfolded and with all your other senses. What do you feel? How does it make you feel? These are questions you should ask yourself or your partner repeatedly. Trust is key, and to fully let go, it’s important that both parties are equally relaxed and comfortable with the practice.
You can also have your hands tied with a simple tie knot and experience what it’s like not to be able to actively “intervene” in everything. Enjoy the touches and let yourself go. Would you like something more? Then tie your arms a little more tightly to the bed or behind your back. If all of this suits your taste and that of your partner, you can also buy lingerie that already includes restraints. You’re taking it a step further, so to speak. Sex shops (the online ones too) have a great selection of bondage lingerie for you to rediscover your desires. Shop your soft bondage look and surprise your partner with it.
You can also find a lot of restraints that will enrich your soft bondage play. Have yourself blindfolded so there is no annoying knot at the back of your head. Or swap the soft, comfortable tie for a soft bondage rope with which you can restrain your hands and feet (only within the limits of what is desired, of course). Want to go a bit further? Then try out handcuffs or restraint sets. There are no limits to your imagination, and you can find everything you can dream of in your soft bondage dreams.
Last but not least, a tip: torture doesn’t always have to be painful. Let yourself be lovingly “tickled” with a feather tickler . The restraint can also be a sweet torture that will make you scream.
Do you want to practice with a professional before doing it with your girl? Give us a call and book a bondage escort now! Make sure you choose incall rather than outcall, that way you can see, try and learn to use all the bondage toys and accessories.