Spanking – a widespread sex fetish

Your girlfriend asks for a spanking, while putting a riding crop into your hand. Did that ever happen?

Is it possible to inflict real pain on your lover during lovemaking, when she kneels before you wearing nothing but a garter belt and stockings?

Spanking originates in BDSM, which is making its way into our bedrooms. Spanking can be very arousing for partners who aren’t into sadomasochism during lovemaking and can help reach new heights during subsequent sex. With these tips, it’s easy.

Erotically arousing blows

How can blows from a riding crop lead to erotic arousal? In the brain, the pain and pleasure centers work close to each other, so that external stimuli are processed by both brain regions. In response to pain, the body releases adrenaline, and the descending pain system releases opioids, the body’s own anesthetics that induce euphoria. Therefore, all humans possess a neurological predisposition to experience pleasure in the face of pain.

The pain of a whip lash has an erotic and pleasure-enhancing effect on these hormones. With some practice, people can achieve this in an erotic mood-for example, by having a partner dressed erotically – so that the body releases further euphoric endorphins when experiencing pain. A masochistic predisposition is not required for you to experience spanking as pleasure.

What is spanking?

Spanking is part of so-called English discipline, which is frequently sought or offered in personal ads. Spanking ranges from hitting with paddles and whipping to light pinching of the buttocks. The term spanking originates from domestic punishment, when parents punished their children or teachers punished their students with a cane.

This fetish refers to the consensual willingness of adults to receive punishment – so-called submissive, bottom, slave – or to administer it – top, dom, mistress, or dominatrix. The pain is intentional and is experienced as intense sexual arousal, especially by submissive, masochistic, or sadistic partners. Even less masochistic partners enjoy the play.

Safety rules before, during and after corporal punishment

1. Devoted or sadomasochistic tendencies should be clarified beforehand for oneself and for the partner – especially the Dom needs to know whether the sub is only devoted and submissive or also experiences strong pleasure from pain, meaning he or she is masochistically inclined, and whether or not they derive pleasure from humiliation or bondage. The fetish questionnaire can help with this.
2. A safe word (tips here) should always be agreed upon beforehand between both participants to ensure that the spanking does not exceed pain thresholds or cause permanent damage. The safe word should not be related to role-playing, so that it cannot be missed.
3. During the game, the Sub will experience pain and react impulsively with Stop!. It must be agreed beforehand that only the safeword will lead to the game being terminated.
4. The duration of the role-playing session with spanking should be determined in advance. If the spanking also involves being tied up (rope bondage) up for several hours, make sure that the Sub can change position every half hour, as prolonged pain may occur.
5. The spanking instruments must be disinfected. Since spanking can cause minor, superficial wounds, the skin should be washed and disinfected. Hygiene is very important during spanking. Any wounds should be treated afterward.
6. The head, neck, kidney area and the spine are absolutely forbidden areas during spanking. Serious injuries can occur here. Suitable body parts for spanking include the buttocks – but not the upper part, as this is too close to the spine. Other possible areas include the thighs, upper arms, and the sensitive soles of the feet, which should be handled with care.
7. Be careful with whips – the tip can easily wrap around body parts and thus reach areas not intended. For example, the penis could easily be accidentally hit if a longer whip lands on the buttocks.
8. Corporal punishment should never be administered in anger or as a release for aggression. For safety reasons, a quiet break can be agreed upon before beginning any corporal punishment, during which both partners must remain in complete silence.
9. Spanking should never be combined with alcohol, drugs, or medication. Painkillers are also taboo. You should both be in your right mind and able to correctly assess each other’s pain and reactions.
10. It’s important that spanking only begins after the submissive has been erotically aroused to some extent. The more sexually aroused they are, the easier it is for them to transform the pain of the spanking into sexual euphoria. Therefore, it works best to incorporate spanking into an erotic role-playing scenario : the submissive has made a mistake and must be punished.
11. Spanking should begin with flat instruments as a warm-up and can then be gradually increased. The warm-up phase makes the skin less likely to tear.
12. As with all other sexual practices, spanking is a matter of trust, which must never be exploited or disregarded. Safety guidelines for dating should be strictly followed, and a trusted person should be present.

Spanking as role-playing – the schoolgirl and the teacher

In the classic “over the knee” or “English discipline” (or “English education”), the woman lies across the man’s lap so he can spank her bare buttocks. The spanking is initially done with the flat of the hand, followed by the use of a riding crop, cane, or ruler, as these implements most closely resemble those used in school. The woman wears a short skirt, ideally in matching patterns and colors that complement her top, creating the impression of a school uniform.

The rules of the student-teacher spanking game

1. The student has done something bad, is caught by the teacher and must be punished.
2. The student lies face down over the teacher’s lap. The teacher lifts her skirt, removes her panties, and announces the punishment, specifying the number of strokes.
3. The spanking begins with a warm-up phase, pre-warming the student’s buttocks with light slaps, pinches, and kneading. This warm-up releases endorphins (feel-good hormones) in her, increasing her sexual arousal and pain tolerance.
4. Once the bare buttocks appear well-circulated, the teacher begins the punishment. He strikes each buttock alternately.
5. The student must obey the following rules:
   1. She must count every blow correctly.
   2. She thanks the teacher for the punishment at least after every 10th stroke.
   3. She should address the teacher respectfully as Mr. Teacher.
   4. She is only allowed to whine quietly.
6. If someone is disrespectful or the rules are broken, the number of strokes increases. The teacher can also arbitrarily increase the number of strokes at any time, because he is the teacher and she is overcome by a feeling of helplessness.
7. Pain is occasionally accompanied by gentle caresses and sexual stimulation. If the student proves compliant, diligently counts along, thanks politely, and complains little, the teacher lovingly strokes and caresses her as a reward, according to his own whim.
8. The safeword is always respected, so that the student can signal if the pain threshold has been exceeded and can end the game at any time.
9. If the student begs for mercy, the teacher can deny it or grant it with conditions. It is up to the partner to atone for her guilt and mitigate the punishment, for example by performing oral sex or even deepthroat, stripping for her partner, by inserting a butt plug in her ass for the rest of the session or by performing a lap dance expertly.
10. If the debt is not properly settled, the game can continue at step 1.
11. After the game ends, the sore bottom is cared for and the student receives a lot of loving affection.

Spanking as a form of education

Another form of discipline is role-playing. The roles are clearly defined and switched as desired. Even though men are generally considered the stronger sex, women can also take on the dominant role and, as a dominatrix, restrain and punish their partner.

Spanking is all about imagination. In some role-playing scenarios, the participants primarily aim to feel humiliated and beg for mercy. The active, dominant partner, however, resists the wishes of their victim and continues the punishment. The pain threshold should always be only slightly exceeded. In this fictional disciplinary game, the submissive partner remains in the clutches of the torturer until the latter considers the guilt for a previously imagined misdeed absolved.

The choice: riding crop, cane or whip

The best spanking tools are whips, riding crops, paddles and canes. It’s true, using the whip is called whipping and using the cane is, well, caning. Household items that serve the same purpose can also be used: cooking spoons, belts, brushes, rulers, sticks, spatulas, or carpet beaters.

Resources for beginners

Flat implements like paddles are suitable for beginning a spanking session, as they stimulate and warm up the largest possible area of ​​skin. Afterward, instruments offering greater precision are used. Riding crops, for example, inflicts more pain due to their design, as they are easier to swing and offer less resistance in the air. All newcomers are advised to start with soft whips or canes, since the ability to intensify the pain is precisely what makes many sexual practices so appealing.

Leather whips

Leather whips, made of many thin leather strips, can inflict widespread pain as well as gentle caresses when the whip glides softly over the skin. The whip can be used for punishment, but also as a sign of understanding and making amends. Both partners should agree on the spanking implement beforehand.

Chastisement and spanking – the unique experience

Spanking, when practiced as a consensual activity between adults and with complete immersion in the role-playing, can be a pleasurable and novel experience. Increased blood flow can enhance sexual pleasure and orgasm.