The female orgasm is still one of the greatest mysteries of our time. At least, that’s what many people believe. Women are complicated and not easy to understand. Women think in more complex ways, and their orgasms are as rare as a mythical dragon. But unfortunately, we aren’t taught that this topic is actually so clear and simple. Neither in school nor later in life. It’s well known that women don’t always have orgasms, and it’s such a popular topic that we sometimes wonder if there’s actually something wrong with them. Making girls cum is difficult and requires a lot of work. That’s not entirely true either. If the female nature is understood, it’s actually not that complicated after all. Here we want to enlighten you about her orgasm so that you understand what actually happens in her body once they get going and what else there is to know about it!
What happens in the body before, during and after an orgasm?
During the arousal phase, the genital sensory cortex is the first brain region to be activated. The more erogenous zones are stimulated, the more active this area becomes. The genital cortex then activates the limbic system (the hippocampus and the amygdala). Both are responsible for emotional processing. The amygdala increases blood pressure and heart rate.
The vagina receives a lot of blood flow, becomes moist, and expands. The clitoris, breasts, nipples, and labia swell. Pulse and blood pressure increase.
Shortly before orgasm, the cerebellum triggers muscle tension. The insula and cingulate gyrus are activated, which is usually only observed in people experiencing pain. At the same time, pain sensitivity decreases significantly, probably because the pain suppression system is also strongly activated. The clitoris retracts “under the foreskin” but is more sensitive. The vagina constricts and receives even more blood flow. Pulse, breathing, and blood pressure increase. The body begins to tense up.
During Orgasm. During climax, the nucleus accumbens and the hypothalamus are activated. The former is part of the pleasure center and is sensitive to dopamine. (The dopamine system is stimulated in a similar way to cocaine, for example.) The anterior part of the hypothalamus produces oxytocin (the love hormone), which triggers a feeling of well-being, causing heart rate and blood pressure to skyrocket and pupils to dilate. The muscles in the vagina, pelvic floor, uterus, and some parts of the body itself contract (rhythmically). Sometimes, there is also a loss of control over the body. Some women “ejaculate” through the urethral opening (squirting).
After orgasm. Brain activity stops abruptly, and a refractory period begins, during which further stimulation of the genitals is noticeable but not arousable. This period is often the reason why many people are unable to have an orgasm. Then blood flows from the genitals back into the body. The clitoris and labia slowly shrink. Blood pressure, pulse, and respiratory rate decrease. The muscles in the body relax.
Are there different types or forms of orgasms?
Yes, there are indeed different types of orgasms. The most well-known is the clitoral orgasm, which women experience while masturbating. There are also a few other types:
- Vaginal orgasm: Only about 4% of women experience a vaginal orgasm, triggered by the G-spot in the outer vagina. It can be stimulated with the penis or a finger (rubbing or pressing against it) in the right position. The orgasm is perceived as very intense.
- Clitoral orgasm: The most common type of orgasm in women, and for some, the only one. It’s fairly easy to achieve through clitoral stimulation, as this increases blood flow to the vagina and makes it increasingly sensitive. The orgasm is spread throughout the body and lasts approximately 1 minute.
- Uterine orgasm (A-spot): Orgasm can also be achieved through stimulation of the cervix, although this is not quite as easy. This spot lies below the cervix and is only stimulated during deep penetration. It can lead to multiple orgasms in women and trigger a strong emotional response.
- Nipple orgasm: Because the nipples are very sensitive, it’s possible to achieve orgasm through nipple stimulation alone. Stroking, kissing, and rubbing increase sexual arousal and send stimuli to the vagina, which, in the best case scenario, responds with climax.
- Workout orgasm: Some women can reach orgasm while working out their core. This particularly activates the pelvic floor, which is essentially a woman’s pleasure center. You can learn to stimulate the pelvic floor muscles to orgasm by specifically tensing and relaxing the muscles.
- Cervical orgasm: Also called the “cervix” orgasm. Only if the woman is anatomically well-built can it reach this point, as it lies very deep within the vagina. Stimulating this point through targeted thrusting or rubbing can lead to a very powerful orgasm. Caution is advised, however, as some women find touching the cervix very painful.
- Anal orgasm: With sufficient preparation and a careful approach, an orgasm can also be achieved anally. Stimulate her anal area with fingers, the penis or special sex toys.
- Mental orgasm: Some women can climax through their own imagination, either consciously or while asleep. No stimulation of the intimate area is required, as the power of thought alone generates a strong flow of blood to the vaginal area.
- Urethral orgasm: It sounds strange, but it’s proven: When the upper part of the urethral opening is specifically stimulated, a woman feels a sensation similar to urinating, and a pleasant tingling sensation is triggered. Some women can reach orgasm this way.
Can every woman have orgasms?
Theoretically, it’s possible for every woman to have an orgasm. However, anatomy and psychology play a significant role.
A study suggests that there are women who are built in such a way that they are completely incapable of orgasm. The location of the clitoris and the structure of the vagina determine whether or not a woman can orgasm. The clitoris is shifted by hormones during sex and thus cannot always be sufficiently stimulated. Therefore, not every woman can have an orgasm.
Orgasm and pelvic floor – do they belong together? Does a trained pelvic floor guarantee orgasm?
The pelvic floor plays a major role in orgasm, as it contracts during sexual arousal, thus activating desire. Trained muscles that can be specifically tensed and relaxed promote penis stimulation during sex, increase blood flow, and activate the sensation of pleasure. However, it’s no guarantee of an orgasm, as every body reacts and feels differently.
Orgasm through the power of thought?
It has been proven that women can experience orgasm through the power of thought alone. A particularly common example is the “dream orgasm,” where a woman dreams of erotic events and thus increases blood flow to the vagina. It is also possible to climax while sleeping, without being awakened, and then enter a phase of relaxation.
To harness the power of thought, you have to be aware of one thing: that it takes time and a lot of concentration. That you also need to enter a state of deep relaxation (to “let go”). Then imagine a scenario that particularly excites you, and then let yourself get carried away. This doesn’t always work immediately or the first time, but with a lot of practice, you’ll eventually get the hang of it.
But why is it so complicated?
The orgasm that occurs through imagination alone is much more intense and stronger and is a unique feeling that one must experience at least once.
Orgasm through contraction of the pelvic floor muscles?
It’s entirely possible to achieve orgasm by deliberately contracting and relaxing the pelvic floor muscles. This can be the case, for example, during a workout, when the core, or middle of the body, is intensively engaged and trained. This causes the muscles in the pelvic floor to contract, which is similar to the contraction during orgasm. The vagina receives a lot of blood flow, resulting in a warm, tingling sensation.
Does moaning during orgasm have any special benefits?
Moaning is primarily understood as confirmation, especially for the man, because it verbally demonstrates that what he’s doing feels good. But moaning isn’t just a way to express our feelings. It also has a scientific purpose: moaning makes a woman more relaxed, and the change in breathing increases the sense of pleasure.
Most women do not moan out of pleasure, but rather to make their partner feel good or to accelerate their climax. They are sometimes faking pleasure.
Does moving your pelvis during orgasm intensify it?
Moving your pelvis during orgasm massages the contracting muscles, which can greatly intensify the orgasm and cause it to radiate throughout your body.
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