When it comes to anal sex and anal stimulation, there are countless half-truths, myths, and prejudices. With this guide, our LOVE team has set out to dispel these once and for all. Are you ready for the truth about anal play?
Many people cannot imagine that anal stimulation or anal sex can be fun and enjoyable. But beyond all prejudices, anal play provides a wide range of highly enriching experiences and feelings open to anyone who wants to try something new. We are happy to accompany you step by step in your experiments with anal play and dispel the biggest misconceptions about anal sex.
Let’s discover the truth behind each of these prejudices. In doing so, we’ll reveal how anal stimulation can be a source of pleasure and intense sexual satisfaction. This, of course, only applies when practiced in a safe and consensual setting. We’ll tackle each prejudice one by one, hoping to pave the way for you to experience new, exciting experiences of pleasure.
Myth: anal stimulation is only for gay men
Truth: All men, regardless of their sexual orientation, can experience a lot of fun and pleasure from anal stimulation.
Contrary to popular belief, anal stimulation is not a sexual practice that is only for gay men. After all, every man, whether heterosexual, bisexual, or homosexual, has a prostate, which plays a key role in anal stimulation!
The prostate massage, which is performed either with a special sex toy or simply with the finger, can be extremely pleasant for all men. The stimulation of this erogenous zone, often referred to as the male G-spot, promises new and intense pleasures.
So this has nothing to do with sexual orientation. It’s a purely biological and personal matter for all men who want to try new things.
Myth: Only men can climax through anal stimulation because women do not have a prostate
Truth: Anal pleasure doesn’t discriminate between men and women. Women also get orgasms from anal sex.
The widespread assumption that women cannot enjoy anal stimulation because they do not have a prostate is largely unfounded. Anal area in women is, as in men, equipped with a wealth of nerve endings that, when properly stimulated, can produce deeply pleasurable sensations. From gentle practices such as rimming, to very intensive experiments such as double penetration, the possibilities for anal pleasure in women are large and varied.
The fact is that the often neglected erogenous zone, the backdoor, offers a spectrum of pleasure just waiting to be explored. The ability to enjoy anal stimulation has nothing to do with whether or not you have a prostate. This realization encourages an open and unbiased approach and invites all women to discover another very promising facet of their sexuality with anal play.
Myth: Anal play is best enjoyed with a partner. Anal masturbation is not normal.
Truth: Anal masturbation is completely normal and a great addition to your solo pleasure.
Anal stimulation is not only one of many sexual practices that can be enjoyed as a couple, but also a highly satisfying option for solo moments. Exploring your own back door isn’t unusual or abnormal; quite the opposite, it’s a completely natural way to get to know your own body and your own personal preferences.
Anal masturbation works best with a sex toy. Whether it’s a dildo, a prostate massager or a butt plug, the possibilities are endless. You enjoy the absolute freedom to experiment as you see fit, without having to consider anyone else.
Through anal masturbation, you not only get to know yourself better, but you can also be more open to sexual self-expression. You set your own boundaries, allowing you to approach it with curiosity and without taboos.
Myth: Anal play and especially anilingus is unhealthy by nature
Truth: With the right precautions, anal stimulation is completely clean and hygienic
Many people mistakenly believe that anal stimulation is dirty and unhealthy. It is true, of course, that various bacteria live in the anal area. However, with proper preparation, anal play and anilingus are completely hygienic. The key lies in preparation and cleanliness: thorough cleaning and sterilizing sex toys after each use and an anal douche before intercourse are important measures that can be used very easily and simply.
Myth: Regular anal sex permanently changes the shape of the anus
Truth: The anus consists of a very stretchy tissue that returns to its original shape after intercourse
The belief that anal sex could permanently change the shape of the anus falls into the same category as the myth that the vagina dilates after frequent sexual intercourse. These misconceptions prevent people from freely expressing their sexuality.
The reality is: the backdoor is made of an extremely stretchy fabric that returns to its original shape after being stretched during anal penetration. After a strong stretch (for example, during fisting) a temporary relaxation of the anal sphincter may occur, but this is completely normal and temporary. The human body is very adaptable and resilient. This also applies to the backdoor. Function and shape remain the same over time and cannot be permanently altered by any sexual practices.
Myth: No contraception is necessary for anal penetration
Truth: Contraception is always necessary, no matter what form of penetration takes place
Many people believe that contraception is not necessary during anal sex. However, this assumption is fundamentally wrong. After all, the two openings of the anus and vagina are close together, so sperm can easily flow from the anus into the vagina. This means that anal penetration not only can lead to pregnancy, but also sexually transmitted diseases can be transferred.
Regardless of whether you have just met someone or you are changing sexual partners, with partners whose history you do not know, the use of a condom in all sexual practices is very important for the protection of everyone involved. This not only prevents unwanted pregnancies, but also protects you from sexually transmitted diseases. The basic rule is: by using contraception, you demonstrate respect and responsibility – an important foundation for any sexual relationship.
Myth: Sex toys intended for vaginal stimulation can also be used for anal stimulation
Truth: Sex toys for anal stimulation must have a wide base, otherwise they may slide too deeply into the anus, requiring medical intervention
The assumption that a sex toy intended for vaginal stimulation can also be used for anal stimulation is risky and false. In fact, a sex toy without a wide base may accidentally slip too deeply into the anus and become impossible to remove.
Safety should always be your top priority when experimenting with new sexual practices. This also means choosing the right sex toy. To avoid embarrassing and potentially dangerous situations that require medical intervention, it’s important to only use sex toys intended for anal play. Anal plugs, prostate massagers or dildos with suction cups enable safe and at the same time pleasurable use.
Myth: An anal toy can easily be used for vaginal stimulation
Truth: Be sure to pay attention to sex toy hygiene to avoid the transmission of germs
When considering whether a sex toy used for anal stimulation can also be safely used for vaginal penetration, one crucial point must not be overlooked: hygiene. Although it’s virtually impossible to “lose” a sex toy in the vagina due to the natural barrier of the cervix, using the same sex toy for two orifices can result in the transmission of bacteria and germs.
This increases the risk of infections such as Cystitis or developing a vaginal yeast infection. Some non-porous toys may occasionally be sterilized. However, the easiest way is to use different sex toys for anal and vaginal stimulation.
Myth: Saliva as a lubricant substitute is enough before anal penetration
Truth: A special anal lubricant makes the anal pleasure experience particularly pleasant and pleasurable
The use of saliva as a lubricant for anal penetration is frequently seen in porn, but should not be imitated. Unlike the vagina, there is no natural lubrication in the anus. Therefore, it is essential to use a lubricant during anal penetration. Use a high-quality lubricant to improve lubrication during penetration and minimize unpleasant or even painful friction.
For anal penetration and stimulation there are special anal lubricants, which offer particularly long-lasting lubricating properties and a very smooth texture, which is especially important during the first attempts at anal play. A good anal lubricant not only increases comfort, but also safety for everyone involved.
Myth: Anal stimulation pleases everyone who has tried it once
Truth: Anal play preferences vary greatly from person to person
The belief that everyone enjoys anal stimulation ignores the diversity of sexual preferences and tastes. As with any other sexual practice, reactions and sensations during anal sex vary greatly from person to person. For some, it may be a source of intense pleasure, while for others, it may not.
The most important thing is to respect your own boundaries and to communicate with your partner openly if an experience isn’t as pleasant as hoped. An understanding and respectful response would be to accept and embrace this different perception. Everyone should be able to discover new facets of their own pleasure without pressure or stress.
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