Money, love and children?
It starts even before the baby is born. The room is painted pink, a mobile with little princesses is hung over the crib, and the cute little onesies should ideally be covered in “Hello Kitty” or other adorable mythical creatures. Just the word “pink” immediately makes us think: It’s a girl!
From an early age, we are taught what is typical for men and women, no matter how ridiculous that may sometimes seem.
But what does the male world say women want?
Money! As much money as possible – after all, there’s no other way to finance this inexplicable shoe and handbag addiction. Oh, and on dates, of course, it’s important to make sure the woman doesn’t even have to think about paying.
Lots of kids! Ideally 2 girls and 2 boys. Or even just girls, so you can take them shopping later.
Love. And we don’t mean “love,” we mean “LOVE!” Unconditional romance and passion, like something out of a sappy movie dripping with clichés.
THE perfect body. And the things women don’t do to achieve it: Botox injections, painful dermaroller treatments, hours-long spa sessions, sweaty hours at the gym, and so on…
Seamless organization. Are the socks right next to the laundry basket again, instead of in it? Drama is inevitable!
This list could go on indefinitely, but I think you probably know what I’m getting at.
Social change – a short history
For today’s modern woman, going to work is a given, no matter when, how, or where she wants. Even in “typically” male-dominated professions, such as manufacturing or construction, the proportion of women has increased dramatically over the years, as modern women refuse to be dictated to what they can and can’t do. They go to clubs and realize their potential – even without children or family planning. They know how to be self-confident and stand up for their rights. But that wasn’t always the case – it wasn’t until the last century that equal rights became firmly established!
- 1900 – Women are allowed to study at universities in Germany for the first time
- 1911 – The first International Women’s Day, in which over half a million women from several countries participated
- 1918 – Women’s suffrage is enforced (in Switzerland only since 1971)
- 1949 – Equality is enshrined in the Basic Law
- 1952 – Elizabeth II becomes the Queen of Great Britain and Northern Ireland.
- 1968 – The first maternity protection law improves the situation for working mothers
- 1972 – Annemarie Renger (SPD) becomes the first female President of the Bundestag
- 1993 – Violence against women is recognized as a violation of rights
- 2006 – The anti-discrimination law is passed
As you can easily see, a great deal has happened in the last 100 years. Only through all these steps is it possible for us today to move freely through the world and pursue our own needs without any regrets.
From this timeline, it is easy to conclude that women have strived for one goal above all else: equality.
Now let’s get to the heart of the matter: what do women REALLY want ? It’s difficult to say in general terms what every woman wants. However, due to social change and the media, the following can be summarized for the two most important areas:
Women want to:
- be fairly paid for the same work that a man does.
- be integrated regardless of their gender, without prejudice or restrictions.
- equality and freedom of co-decision.
Women want in everyday life
- are allowed to cast their vote on important decisions.
- not be sexualized or equated with an “object.”
- be able to develop their femininity without having to feel “at the mercy of others”.
What women want in a man
From experience and through intensive and extensive research, we’ve compiled a list of what women want in a man. This, too, can’t be generalized, but it might give you, as a man, a better understanding of your partner or future lover.
Humor:
Women want a man who knows how to make them laugh. Or one who can laugh heartily at something completely common, even at himself. You don’t have to force every laugh out of you – it’s enough to welcome the world openly and warmly, and simply not be too tense!
Initiative:
Yes, women LOVE it when men take the initiative! By that, we don’t mean you should be the first to pick up the bill on a date, but rather “small things.” Instead of waiting for her to make the first move, simply touch her first. Or spontaneously suggest going to the movies, or simply meeting up for a leisurely stroll through town or some delicious ice cream.
Down-to-earth:
Nothing’s more annoying than a guy who only talks about how much money he has, how many women he’s slept with, or how demanding his job is. It’s okay to talk about your life, but it shouldn’t sound like you have nothing else to show for it. A down-to-earth man exudes a warm trustfulness that women find irresistible.
Loyalty and honesty:
Loyalty should be a given in a relationship – unless otherwise agreed – and not a game of cat and mouse where every time your partner grumbles, you secretly wonder, “Who is he texting?” Only by laying all your cards on the table and being honest at all times will you build trust, and that’s exactly what a healthy and long-lasting relationship is built on!
No games:
Are you just looking for sex? Okay, then tell her! You’re deliberately waiting a few days because you think it will make you more interesting? Ridiculous! Women hate being played with. Women have feelings just like men, and that should be respected!
Vulnerability:
Emotionless bad boys who don’t give a damn about what’s said about them or whether their idiotic behavior hurts others are nothing more than good actors OR sociopaths. Men are allowed to show emotions just as much as women. It’s even encouraged. A study shows that men who talk openly about their feelings are much more popular with women than so-called REAL men. A real man stands up for himself. Period, end of story!
Be goal-oriented:
It’s a common cliché, and while it’s not entirely true, it’s nonetheless very true: women want a man who has a firm footing in life and knows what he wants. A man with a firm plan in life not only exudes self-confidence, he also gives you the feeling of security that all of us desire. He doesn’t even have to earn a lot: after all, money isn’t everything!
And what do women want in bed?
Now let’s get to the point: what do women want in bed? And before you take a deep breath and shout “an orgasm!”, let’s clarify why that’s not right. Okay, you’re right in some ways. An orgasm is a wonderful thing. And since women are pretty far behind in this regard and enjoy every tickle in our intimate area, it’s naturally great to have one every now and then. But an orgasm isn’t everything a woman wants in bed. It’s about much more than that!
Communication:
Women want to be understood – no matter how difficult it can sometimes be. If we don’t communicate with each other, we don’t even know what we want! Therefore, it’s always advisable to talk openly and completely unashamedly about your preferences and needs, so that there are no awkward silences or negative feelings that can arise afterward.
Foundation of hygiene:
We like it when our partner smells like himself and not like his stinging aftershave or perfume. Researchers have found that people are attracted and feel intimacy not by physical appearance or skill, but by their own body odor. However, it’s not very appealing when you stink of days-old sweat. Besides, no one wants to be scratched or even injured by nails that sprout from their toes like daggers..
Foreplay:
Women love to be touched. It makes them feel desired. Women feel sexy when men devour them with a hungry gaze and pamper all over. Whether it’s a thorough massage, hours of kissing and cuddling or bare-handed satisfaction: women want to relax and clear their heads before sex, and they can only achieve that when they’re aroused and in the mood. Except for a quickie – there, things can get quick and wild.
The right ambience:
It doesn’t have to be romantic candlelight with a path lined with rose petals and the scent of cedarwood. It’s enough if we feel comfortable in the surroundings and don’t constantly worry about being disturbed. So turn off your cell phone, close the door, and pull down the blinds if you like. It doesn’t have to be completely dark..
Kiss:
No, the erogenous zone that can be touched with your lips isn’t just the lips! The earlobes, the inside of the thighs, and even their backs are very sensitive to tender kisses and touches with the tongue! Their entire body is actually meant to be kissed and discovered – do YOU know if your loved one is sensitive around her belly button? Why not just try it out?
Flirtations:
Nothing is more erotic than looking deeply and intimately into each other’s eyes during sex. It’s not for nothing that they say our eyes are the mirrors of our souls. When we’re aroused, our pupils dilate, which is why you can immediately tell how much desire you have for each other with just a glance.
Targeted touches :
Have you ever heard of a “breastgasm”? This is the orgasm you can experience solely through nipple stimulation – without any clitoris contact! Even a firm grip on the buttocks or waist can be very intoxicating, so you simply have to experiment to find out what the woman particularly likes and what she responds to with a definite shudder.
Oral sex:
Unfortunately, oral sex is still a far too rare occurrence among women. It’s a shame, because the clitoris is a woman’s most sensitive body part, and it’s particularly stimulated by the moist, soft touch of a tongue. Oral sex also builds trust and can even help a woman let go completely, which is difficult for most people. Plus, it flows much more smoothly…
Surprises:
Women love to be surprised. Be it a bouquet of flowers, a deliciously cooked lunch, or a spontaneous invitation to dinner at their favorite restaurant. But you know what’s even better? Surprise them with a sex toy or a few new touches. Every woman wants a partner who is open to new things and willing to develop their shared interests.
The aftermath:
We know sex is tiring. Afterward, you just want to lie in the exact same position you left off in. But why not take a nap together? Or take a cozy, warm bath together, lazing around in the intoxicating scent? A woman wants to be noticed after sex, otherwise she quickly feels like a “used object,” and that’s just not who women are!
And what do you want?
Many people find it very difficult to figure out what they actually want. Be it sexually, in their career, or in a relationship. It’s perfectly normal to discover something new every day that might take them down a different path. But it’s very important to know which direction you want to go. If you know what you want, you can plan your day-to-day life accordingly. So what do you need to do to achieve your goal? Do you want to aspire to a higher position in your career? Then it might be a good idea to take training or engage particularly intensively with your work.
A goal-oriented perspective boosts self-confidence and has a great impact on your mental health: For example, if you’ve achieved this, and your boss praises you for your good work, how does that feel? Good, isn’t it? 🙂 All those small steps will make you feel like you’re getting closer to your goal, little by little.
You should trust your gut feeling and isolate yourself from other people’s opinions. After all, it’s your own life, not that of your parents or friends. You have to feel comfortable with your decisions, not the people around you.
But also be aware of what you DON’T want. Don’t want to get into financial difficulties? Then budget your money for each month so you don’t end up in a dire situation. Do you want to experience a satisfying sex life? Then you should openly express your needs and assert your preferences!
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